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Personal development is an essential quality for every person that wants to be better.

Personal development is a consciously imbibed lifelong process to achieve set goals, improve quality of life, and maximize your potentials.

Anyone who wants to improve his/her living standards spiritually, physically, mentally, and in all other aspects has to strive for it to attain it.

There’s no trick to developing yourself except you put in the work. I’ve seen people who want to upgrade themselves financially – manipulate everything, got rich, and eventually got jailed for their frivolities.

Why? They manipulated things to get rich quickly; they didn’t put the effort in the right places.

I have also seen those who want to upgrade financially put in the extra efforts and eventually became successful. It took them some time and effort, yet they made it eventually.

There are stories around us – stories of people who fought to be better versions of themselves; stories of those who fought to break loose from a habit; stories of those who fought spiritual battles and conquered through personal development.

This article will briefly relate an authentic story of how a young man conquered battle through self-improvement. 

The article will also further explore personal development, some terrific tips to attain personal growth and unique development benefits.

The story of Alli’s personal development

There are different sides to personal development. It could be spiritual development, physical or emotional self-development, or we could even strive to be better in every sphere of our lives.

However, Ali’s story is that of personal spiritual development, which further helped him in other parts of his life.

There’s a wide belief in spiritual manifestations, especially in African society. Alli’s case was considered one of those spiritual cases – his case was depicted as one that’s not normal, and, indeed, he also knew it wasn’t a regular occurrence.

At the age of 15, Alli hadn’t stopped bedwetting. His younger siblings were far ahead of him in that aspect. His parents were worried, and his elder siblings knowingly would soak his school uniform in his urine – so that he’d smell of piss.

They intended that if he smelled that way amongst his friends, he’d be ashamed and feel inclined to stop the disdainful act. However, it only worsened.

At some point, he’d have a dream of having sexual intercourse with a female in his dream and wake up to confirm it’s true he did. It was different from a wet dream. 

It was then he believed his situation wasn’t ordinary.

His parents equally got perturbed; they tried their hands at different traditional drugs, used other things all to no avail; instead, his problems persisted.

It wasn’t until all their efforts failed that they decided to seek help elsewhere. 

There’s an Islamic cleric who is believed to be very religious. Alli’s parents weren’t practicing Muslims, but they thought their child’s spiritual problem could be sorted through prayers.

The Islamic cleric prayed for him and took him in, taught him the art of praying and believing in God’s Oneness.

Alli got better, but he also improved his spiritual life – he got total healing through his conscious efforts to become closer to God. Now, he has upgraded to the extent that he prays for other people battling life issues. And God cures them because of his faith.

Alli’s story is one of spiritual development. What’s your story? What personal development stories have you heard?

Aspects of personal development.

The different aspects of personal development are highlighted below.

  • Spiritual development

This kind of development often entails religiosity. However, some argue that having a deep connection with the world is spiritual development – they do not equate being spiritual to religion.

In the case of Alli, however, his religiousness level brought him to a height of spiritual/personal development he couldn’t have achieved much if he remained the same without seeking knowledge.

Spiritual development is essential to guiding you to other aspects of personal development.

  • Mental development

This kind of development significantly impacts our relationships, career, family, education, and the likes.

Mental development is also vital to the other aspects of personal development. Cognitive development aids fast learning and interpersonal relationships.

It would be best to consciously relax and exercise your brain to strengthen your mental development.

  • Emotional development

It is essential to be emotionally healthy – learning to handle your emotions will help you through many life struggles.

Life throws so many blows at us – one of the aspects of development that can help us handle those blows is emotional development.

Emotional development can be tedious to achieve because of humans’ complexity. However, one should strive for it.

  • Physical development.

Another aspect that influences our growth is physical development. Physical development enhances our chances of attaining the other parts of the development.

Endeavor to eat well, exercise, work, practice a good skincare routine and relax to achieve excellent physical development.

Tips on how to attain personal growth

Highlighted below are some best practices to help you attain personal development.

  1. Read on/research things you’d love to improve on.

To improve on a particular aspect of your life, you often need to seek knowledge – just like Alli did.

You need to read on/research the area you’d love to improve to become refined and more knowledgeable.

Reading and upgrading your memory bank is a fantastic way of positively impacting your personal development.

  1. Develop a practice routine.

You could easily ruin your mindset and set goals with the wrong routine regimen. 

Develop a healthy practice regimen that will positively impact your personal goals. 

Try to avoid things that are contradictory to your set goals. One of the best ways to achieve a best practice regimen is through a reward/punishment routine.

The reward/punishment routine works this way – if you work towards achieving your goals, you could reward yourself with something you love or have always wanted.

However, if you flop on your personal goals, you could punish yourself with something that will touch you deeply.

To achieve this, you need to be true to yourself.

  1. Stay honest to yourself.

It’s not easy denying yourself some life pleasures. However, one of the doctrines of personal development is to deprive yourself of little things to achieve greater heights of fulfillment.

You have to stay true/honest to yourself to maximize your potential. 

The bitter truth is, it’s easier said than done; it’s easier to read books on your goals but challenging to work towards implementing your plans.

Put in the actions and be your judge.

  1. Get yourself a mentor/role model.

One practice that shouldn’t be undermined in personal development is getting yourself a mentor or a role model.

Alli’s father saw this when he chose the Islamic cleric as Alli’s mentor.

That was the turning point of Alli’s life – he not only become healed but become learned about religion and spiritually improved; that’s a form of personal development.

Also, having role models, you look up to will keep you motivated and help you to become better.

  1. Take time to reflect.

Reflection is an essential aspect of personal development. 

It is vital to sit back and reflect on your progress or lapses – this will help you become better.

Asking yourselves questions equates finding answers to the questions through conscious efforts.

  1. Work with / stay with people who are willing to push you the extra mile.

It’s not surprising when you see that highly successful people mingle amongst themselves – this is essential because the kind of people you move with have a telltale of it in your life.

Do you want to achieve some set goals? Move with people who share the same visions as you. Move with people who are willing to push you to success.

Sometimes, personal development isn’t a journey to embark on alone. You need people to ride with you to get to the shore.

  1. Stay consistent.

Consistency is critical in every action. To achieve a personal goal, you must be consistent.

Self-development is a lifelong process; it doesn’t happen overnight. It takes time, effort, and patience. However, in the long run, it pays.

  1. Keep tabs on your progress.

Gauging your progress is a great personal development tip. 

This tip helps you know if you’re doing the right things or not. You’ll also learn the necessary steps to take towards actualizing your goals.

Benefits of personal improvement

Personal development comes with a lot of added advantages. Some of the benefits of personal developments are listed below.

  • Fulfilling your set goals.
  • Enhanced self-esteem and self-identification
  • Having the courage to face life challenges
  • Improves your interpersonal relationships with others
  • Yields a quality lifestyle
  • Develops self-discovery and helps people propel towards utilizing their talents.
  • Strength development, amongst others.

The impact of personal development or lack of it in the lives of many could not be undermined. 

Taking conscious efforts in improving our lives will go a long way in helping us live a fulfilled life.

The article is quite detailed on personal development; study the tips and implement them in your lives to live a fulfilling life.

About the author


Mariam Olajide, mostly called by friends as 'Mori,' is passionate about reading and writing. She is a graduate of English at the Lagos State University and a postgraduate student at the University of Ibadan.
She isn't just passionate about reading and writing.

She's passionate about a world that is peaceful and free from judgementalism. As a plus, she believes in YOU - she thinks you can get lost in her blogs and be transformed for the better. *Smiles*

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